We were not the typical couple. Matter of fact, I still can't believe how we got this far. Even the very few people who knows us are still in disbelief that AFTER 6 YEARS.... finally, we have the odds in our side.
It was not an easy journey.... but looking back, I can surely, totally, definitely say ----- IT'S ALL WORTH IT!
Love month is fast approaching... and I am a bit nervous of what's gonna happen. Last year's Valentines went terrible wrong! So let me ease my paranoia by sharing you guys our best practices to living in peace and in harmony with each other (ahihihi).
1. NEVER LIE
Even if it would hurt each other, we prefer not to tell lies. Honesty at all cost.
2. Never make a decision alone if half of us is gonna be affected.
We don't have to consider each other for every decision making that we do. But of course, we need to consult each one if the action's affecting both of us.
3. Always say Thank you, Please, and Sorry
In short, communicate kind words. We both grew up with dysfunctional families. My dad is a nagger. His mom is a nagger too. We both lived with families where cussing and swearing is normal. We don't want to bring that language to our future family.
4. Philippians 2:3
"Consider others better than yourselves..."
5. Rather than asking for the right one, be the right one.
We still argue on a lot of things. Even after 6 years, there are still attitudes and characters we can't stand from each other. But rather than demanding change from each other, better be the change you wanna be. ;)
6. Spoil your partners from time to time
Just as he massages my aching knees and feet after all the day's work, I make sure to spoil him one way or another. Need not to be extravagant. Small deeds like a post it with chocolates secretly placed inside his bag, or surprising him with a homemade lunch at work are perfect examples.
7. Pray and Seek Counsel
True love is never "you and me against the world". True love is loving God, and loving people. Involve each other's families in your relationship. Know each other's friends, and seek counsel from elderly/pastors for any disagreement. And most importantly, let God be the center of the relationship.
8. Lastly, Never Sleep Your Issues Away
No matter how hurtful it is, we never let a the sun set without us fixing whatever that needs to be mend. No matter how hard things are. We address the matter right away and discuss best possible solutions. We don't just sleep and hope that things will go away. Anyway, as the old adage goes, "walang bagay na hindi nadadaaan sa mabuting usapan".
Mahal, iloveyousooomuch!
